DEAR HARRIETTE: A longtime friend came to visit me and my family this summer. We had a nice visit.
As I was driving my friend home at the end of his visit, he commented in a bythe- way fashion on what he observed about my interactions with my wife. She and I have been in a simmering war of words for a long time now, and he clocked it. He didn't pass judgment. He just said he hoped we could get past…