DEAR ABBY: My wife and I married in our early 40s. I have given my all to her, but I have always felt underappreciated. I always wanted to be a father, but she didn’t want to have kids. After we were together for a few years, she changed her mind, so we decided to try for a child and were surprised to discover after only a week of trying that we were pregnant. A few months ago, we were blessed wit…