DEAR HARRIETTE: I think that my boyfriend might be a colorist. The other day I asked him what he likes about me, and one of the things that he named was my 'light complexion.' (We are both African American.) This immediately raised a red flag. I always assumed that he liked me for me, not my skin tone. I also don't like the fact that perhaps if I were a few shades darker, he would not have been in…