DEAR ABBY: I have known this man, “Finn,” for years. We grew up together. He was the annoying boy on the playground who turned into my first love when we were in college. We live in different states now, so we have grown distant, although we still talk on holidays and birthdays. It’s been quite a while since we were together, but I still can’t get over him. I haven’t tried to find another guy beca…