DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a male friend who can be very hot and cold. We've been friends for more than three years. I don't see him too often, but whenever I do see him, I can never tell what version of him I am going to get. He can be kind, generous and caring, or he can be cold, blunt and irritable. I think a part of me has just learned to accept his moodiness.
I love him and value our friendship ve…