DEAR HARRIETTE: When I was in my late 20s, I decided to move to Japan to teach English. I met a man there, and we got married and had two beautiful daughters. Soon after my second daughter was born, we decided to get a divorce because our relationship wasn't working anymore. I moved back to the U.S., and I was able to find a job and get back on my feet as a newly single woman with a toddler and an…