DEAR HARRIETTE: I have always been an outsider, and not by choice.
It just seems to happen. I started a job this year where I thought it might be different. We all go into the office, and on many occasions a group of people my age go out after work for drinks or whatever they do. They have never invited me. I'm kind of shy, so I haven't gotten up the courage to ask to go.
I do talk to them when I se…