DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband and I have been going to a therapist — separately. I couldn’t get him to go with me, but he agreed to start by talking to her on his own. I feel like I am making a bit of progress when I talk to her, but he still refuses to talk together. I don’t know what to do. I want to save my marriage, but it is clear that we need a mediator. We are a little closer by having this wo…