DEAR ABBY DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 37 years. During that time, my husband has cheated on me and fathered several children. As we have grown older, I have begun to think about final arrangements. If he dies, would I be wrong for not giving him a funeral or memorial service or having one for his sisters and brothers? I feel it would be disrespectful to me if the children that resulted fro…