DEAR ABBY: The music director at our church – I’ll call her Mildred – is an alcoholic. I realized it after I offered my home to her when she said she needed to escape from her alcoholic partner. Mildred is a nighttime drinker and imbibes until probably 2 a.m. She says she can’t get to sleep until the “middle of the night.” I was married to an alcoholic for many years, yet I had no idea Mildred had…